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Every time I see someone reblog my picture after they’ve removed my text (thereby removing my stories and experiences) I remind myself that that’s exactly how visibility and presentation work in the real world too so I really shouldn’t expect more from you Internet.
No matter how hard I work to present myself in a way that feels powerful and subversive, there will always be people who will strip me of that and put their own story and ideas on how they consume me.
That’s Identity, that’s Visibility.
But that’s okay with me because I don’t fucking do this for anyone but me anywaaaaayz
So…
Domino Dollhouse Leopard Leggings
I’d learn how to smile in my pictures but then you might get the wrong impression about me.
These leggings are fab. They’re like swimsuit material so they just feel really nice on and give one the sensation of what it might be like to be a superhero. I bought the 2x on accident but they still fit, I’m just sporting a bit of a plumber’s crack :) But you know, I love cleavage of any kind.
Tank top - cut from an old tshirt 2x
Leggings - Domino Dollhouse 2x
Platforms - Miz Mooz 9.5
In the spirit of visibility I’m around 260ish lbs, 5’5 on a good day and a humble egomaniac
Chronic Urticaria Forever
The more photos I reveal of my bare skin at its worst, the more empowered I feel.
Have you submitted to Our Skin yet?? You should!! xoxo
Did you all know its Fat Dudes Week on Adipositivity??
SO GREAT!!
Fa(t)shion February - Do You Work Birthday Parties Edition
I had a lot of nightmares last night that were really unsettling for me so when I’m feeling low I put on something from my arsenal of “Feel Better Dresses”.
I love this dress a lot but I hesitate from wearing it sometimes because out of all my pieces, this one gets the most commentary from strangers and some days I’m just not up for being that visible.
“Are you in a play?”
“Do you work birthday parties?”
“Are you going to Comic Con?”
I think its because I look really costumey vintage when I wear it…I mean there is a big misconception that everyone in the 50s wore loud polka dots ;) I won’t actually be going on a rant about that today though…sorry my fellow vintage snobs!
I’ve adjusted my life to make room for my hypervisibility. I realized when I was getting into body acceptance and fat politics how my body’s visibility was being used against me and how I would feel comfortable and more importantly empowered fighting back. I fight back by making myself SUPER FUCKING VISIBLE on MY terms and presenting myself in a way that forces you to see my fat body but see ME in it.
Nicole Archer said “Femininity in this culture means people think they’re allowed to look at you. I present in a way that lets them know I’m looking back.”
That quote applies to anything outside of the “normative” really.
Wearing costumes is a hobby and SUCH a source of joy for me. I like to see my day to day outfits as a sort of drag performance with the bright colors,petticoats, hair flair, tits exposed and bouncing around and drawn on eyebrows… I think we can all agree I have a flair for the dramatics ;) But purposefully making yourself into a character has a lot of drawbacks.
A lot of people tell me I’m hiding behind my clothes/appearance and that wearing a ”mask” is a sign that I’m not actually as comfortable with my body as I say. Now I don’t want to demonize but every single one of those times has been from a thin bodied, neutral color wearing person who’s always had issues with my personality and outlook on bodies. I’m threatening and I don’t say that from a place of elevated ego (although I will admit I have one!).
The thing is, I WANT to to be threatening. I want you to think about shit when you see me bouncing down the street.
So even though some days I get a little tired of defending myself to others, its all worth it for me. I hope everyone staring got what they were looking for ;)
Dress - Ross actually!! In a size 14 even though I’m a 20/22!! TRY EVERYTHING ON
Cardigan - Target
Belt - Scarf from the Dollar Store
Shoes - thrifted and too big
Brooch & rings - thrifted
u got the love i need to c me thru
ALL DAY I dream about how life would obliterate the scale of cool if all of my favourite people on tumblr lived near me. and by ”near me”, I really mean in the same house that might have no walls so I can just constantly say “hey, I can see you!” without it being creepy. kind of. ha! but you know what I mean.
jokes aside, it really sucks when all you want to do is surround your everyday life with the positivity and mutual love that you find on the internet. internet relationships are so taboo and a lot of people view them as invalid or fake. I find that ESPECIALLY as fat people, we are viewed as on the internet because we can’t be social/too lazy to leave the house/no one would be attracted to us if they saw what we “REALLY” look like, etc. obviously this is not true, as lately we have all posted full body photos of ourselves (something I am sure you wouldn’t have done pre-tumblr fat world) in clothes that make us feel GOOD about ourselves, in honor of Fatshion February, and also often without clothes. PLEASE remember that even just by doing that, posting photos of yourselves, you are pushing against a social boundary - a barrier that tries to hold you back every day. I’ve said it so many times lately, but if you post a photo of your fat body and you don’t crop out your face, or your stomach rolls or your back fat then you are a motherfucking warrior. it isn’t easy.
I am so grateful for community as a whole, but particularly the one I am part of today. I’ve got yr back and I know you’ve got mine. \m/
I echo my Merlover <3 Be visible!! Be loud!! Reach out <3 <3