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I don’t want to watch Adonis. I’d rather have Aphrodite.
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After today let’s all be supportive of eachother going cold turkey from coddling masculinity. Remember just like cigarettes, you take it one day at a time and ask for the help you need! Chewing gum helps!
Anonymous asked: Do you look down on other women who just aren’t ready to shed their gender stereotypes yet because they’re scared? I don’t know if you realize how TREMENDOUSLY courageous you are just by being you. I think there are many women who would love to live their lives the way you do but are still terrified of ridicule and have the societal norms still so deeply engrained in their brains.
Hmm, I don’t really know what to say.
I appreciate you saying that I am courageous and I feel like I need to be now. The truth is that I am scared a lot — It’s really hard to look like this and go out in public, because people feel super entitled to talk about me/stare at me and laugh or shoot me violent daggers that make me feel really concerned for my safety.
At the same time, all I am doing is me - the me that is not hiding anymore. I am really lucky to be surrounded by people who remind me to never hide and I am privileged enough to be able to mostly handle the consequences and have support in my journey. The way I look is not for everyone, and I don’t think that I should be seen as a beacon of radical aesthetic because there are plenty of people who do what I do but differently (and it’s still really bad ass).
For example, Jessica and Ashley are femmes - just like me. They do their gender in a totally different way than I do but it is just as intentional, radical and subversive. They are explosive powerhouses of glitter and beauty and strength and they are my fucking gender idols (see also my muse calloutqueen). It is because of them, and many of my other femme role modelz that I am able to do what I do. Unfortunately, many people see what they are doing with their gender as “normative” or “stereotypical” which, if you knew them -is the furthest thing from the truth. It’s too bad we live in a misogynist world that loves to demean and undermine the power of femmes and femininity.
The thing is, ‘visibility’ is really fucked up. I look the way I do because it makes me feel alive and happy and whole. Other femmes do that too, and their experience of their gender and their intentional presentation are just as radical and they need just as much courage as I do to keep doing what they do.
Radical and subversive aesthetics don’t always need to be immediately visible on the surface to be destructive and transformational. When certain people look at femmes they might see stereotypes and ‘societal norms’ but I see a fucking revolution.
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