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Every day I hold, in my hands, smell, touch and feel, all the ways I’m healing and encouraging that Little Girl

She got away and it saved her.

I ate 5 freezer corndogs in one sitting the other day and felt like crying, but didn’t because I didn’t want to talk about it, because it felt good to do that in a place where it wasn’t going to follow me if I didn’t want it to. 

It felt rich. 

I enjoyed every minute of it. 

My hair looks really fucking gay and people who used to walk right through me, think about what my masses would look like bouncing back off their strapons and it makes my blood curdle.

You won’t ever get this and I’m growing my hair out. 

We don’t have two pennies to rub together but every day with Them feels like an all expense paid vacation to Heaven

My dad keeps calling and leaving sloppy beer soaked pleas and all of a sudden I’m sitting next to a neat pile of hair wondering why you won’t get real so the rest of us can go on.

I’m seeing Her in my face and gestures more and more every day and I’m just trying to figure out how to forgive without falling.

But don’t any of you feel worried about me because I never think of you and every day when I remind myself to keep not to thinking about you, it makes me stronger. 

Don’t keep in touch

Don’t stay cool over the summer

I don’t 143

 

 

Coyolxauhqui Rose Again..: Attention Femmes! Please check this out and spread the word! <3

lalunafemme:

As some of you may know, KittyBoomBoom (femme body pos burlesque artist and model) is co producing Viva la Femme! It is an appreciation/visibility show. We have poets, dancers, singers and more! Several Femmes have reached out via tumblr to say they wished they could be a part of this event.

YESSSSSSS FEMME DOMINATION 2013

(Link reblogged from lalunafemme)
New Uniform inspired by Majestic High-res

New Uniform

inspired by Majestic

texmexqwoc: black with shimmery lavender middle finger tomboyfemme flagging fuck patriarchy HOT

texmexqwoc:

black with shimmery lavender middle finger

tomboyfemme flagging

fuck patriarchy

HOT

(Photo reblogged from femmeflagging)

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(Photo reblogged from cholitalicious)

beetroots:

garconniere:

tangledupinlace:

Femme vs Feminine 

Majestic and I answer a question about femme identity, femininity and masculine privilege in queer communities and I check my hair more times than probably necessary. 

IMPORTANT FACTS

I just remembered that I bookmarked this about a month ago with out watching

yes yes yes

to me, the thing that makes femme fashion radical is that I’m inspired by other femme individuals, rather than a corporate idea of what it mean to be feminine. femme doesn’t have a profit motive, femme isn’t exclusive to a certain gender or body type or socio economic class. femme is diy, femme is changeable, innovative, and all kinds of radical. I also think femme fashion brings people together. when i see another blogger who posts a lot of femme fashion (total case in point: pinatasmashing) i tend to assume they are a radical babe, and for some reason these assumptions tend to be true. connecting over femme things is an excellent way to get to know a wide variety of people. 

HEY EVERYONE! I finally subtitled this! You can find them HERE

(Video reblogged from askouija)

Anonymous asked: Do you look down on other women who just aren’t ready to shed their gender stereotypes yet because they’re scared? I don’t know if you realize how TREMENDOUSLY courageous you are just by being you. I think there are many women who would love to live their lives the way you do but are still terrified of ridicule and have the societal norms still so deeply engrained in their brains.

youarenotyou:

majesticlegay:

Hmm, I don’t really know what to say. 

I appreciate you saying that I am courageous and I feel like I need to be now. The truth is that I am scared a lot — It’s really hard to look like this and go out in public, because people feel super entitled to talk about me/stare at me and laugh or shoot me violent daggers that make me feel really concerned for my safety. 

At the same time, all I am doing is me - the me that is not hiding anymore. I am really lucky to be surrounded by people who remind me to never hide and I am privileged enough to be able to mostly handle the consequences and have support in my journey.  The way I look is not for everyone, and I don’t think that I should be seen as a beacon of radical aesthetic because there are plenty of people who do what I do but differently (and it’s still really bad ass).

For example, Jessica and Ashley are femmes - just like me. They do their gender in a totally different way than I do but it is just as intentional, radical and subversive. They are explosive powerhouses of glitter and beauty and strength and they are my fucking gender idols (see also my muse calloutqueen). It is because of them, and many of my other femme role modelz that I am able to do what I do. Unfortunately, many people see what they are doing with their gender as “normative” or “stereotypical” which, if you knew them -is the furthest thing from the truth. It’s too bad we live in a misogynist world that loves to demean and undermine the power of femmes and femininity.

The thing is, ‘visibility’ is really fucked up. I look the way I do because it makes me feel alive and happy and whole. Other femmes do that too, and their experience of their gender and their intentional presentation are just as radical and they need just as much courage as I do to keep doing what they do.

Radical and subversive aesthetics don’t always need to be immediately visible on the surface to be destructive and transformational. When certain people look at femmes they might see stereotypes and ‘societal norms’ but I see a fucking revolution.

i love you

my boo

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(Post reblogged from pinatasmashing)

innerfatgirl:

JLUX is doing the dishes in fisting gloves because she gave us both ridiculous next level glitter manicures and she doesn’t wanna mess up that mad nail swag

between this and the sailor hat and boxer briefs Majestic has been strutting around in all day, we really are a queer sitcom waiting to happen to be televised

(Post reblogged from heavymuffintop)

But seriously

Big ups to all the femmes like me who have to come out and come out and come out again and again and again in order to feel valid. We are not defined by our partners and I see you and exist with you and I’m proud to call you family.

Ain't born typical: Dos and Don'ts for a Femme

classycoochie:

I attended the keynote speech from Mia Mingus for this weekends Femme’s of Color Symposium and this is a list I compiled pulled directly from MY experience listening to that speech, a performance piece, and crowd responses. You are under no obligation to agree or disagree with anything below as this is how I am defining my femmeness.

Do cry whenever you want
Don’t over analyze  what that means to the point of exhaustion
Do wear as much or as little makeup as you’d like
Don’t worry to much when your mascara smears down your face from tears, sweat, work
Do put yourself in places where many people think you don’t fit
Don’t feel obligated to have to let everyone in to your personal space
Do give thanks and speak the names of those before you who have made your path that much more bearable
Don’t feel obligated to out do anyone’s legacy
Do acknowledge that “femme” was your mother’s, your mother’s mother, and your mother’s mother’s mother
Don’t forget that your femme is yours, now
Do create art
Don’t feel obligated to “color inside the lines”
Do enjoy every curve, roll, hair, mole, scar on your body
Don’t hide any those things because of fear
Do practice conscious breathing to the point of letting every part of your chest and belly and face and whole body puff up and hang
Don’t suck it in Don’t suck it in DONT SUCK IT IN!
Do embrace your ugly, your freak, your weird
Don’t ever let others use your ugly, your freak, your weird as weapons against you
Do fuck up the bullshit that is normal, beautiful, pretty
Don’t ever believe not being those terms by “traditional” standards makes you less than
Do connect with everything around you, your body, your family, your soul
Don’t feel obligated to explain your femme to anyone or to yourself
Do fuck/have sex “femme”
Don’t fuck/ have sex “femme”
Do ask yourself questions as often as possible
Don’t feel obligated to know or have all the answers
Do continue to add or take away from this list
Don’t assume that this list applies to anyone else but you

(Source: quelola)

(Link reblogged from fatpeopleofcolor)