Thank you for all the asks with suggestions for those with psoriasis, eczema and other skin conditions!!
I still have a bunch in there RE: the difficulty of dealing with both a skin condition and your fat bodies and really I have even more in there just about the difficulties of being fat. I want you to know you’re all heard and I do my best to get back to all of you.
I’m sorry you’re feeling pain and I’m even more sorry that you feel isolated.
You’re clearly not alone based solely on my ask box :) I thought about starting another tumblr for fat skin stuff? Does that seem more unnecessary than necessary? How does everyone feel about that? I sometimes feel like making a separate space leads to more isolation but I’m open to ideas and suggestions!!
I have a lot of asks about chub rub and darkened inner thighs too.
Well I have that! I get that! I could post a picture of mine to prove it, which is essentially what ya’ll are asking but I honestly feel really conflicted about stuff like that.
On one hand, posts of nudity and whatever (essentially to show you my darkened inner thighs I’d have to post a picture of me spread eagle) can be really empowering and beautiful and what have you for the poster and the viewers. I posed nude for Adipositivity and it was one of the best experiences of my life.
On the other hand, I see a lot of fat bodies posting themselves in various states of undress where my perception of the intent leaves a really bad taste in my mouth. It feels like a cry for validation and that sometimes in doing these posts we’re only contributing to fat fetishization and the hypersexualization of fat bodies. I don’t know, it just sometimes doesn’t sit well with me. Like, when those just coming into body acceptance and still aren’t really loving their bodies post pictures of themselves in their skivvies talking about how they still don’t know if they like themselves, it just…its basing your worth on the comments from others. It feels weird to me.
And I say this knowing I post a lot of naked fat bodies! I mean I guess its just up to me and my perception of the intent because it is my blog and whatever but I guess that’s sorrrrta where I’m at in regards to this outpouring of fat nudity posts.
ANYWAAAAYS I do think there’s a way to show different skin types and body types and conversations we should be having about our bodies and our skin and I want to help and facilitate in any way I can!
For me personally, my inner thighs are definitely a visibly different color than the rest of my skin. The skin is even tougher and I’ve gotten chub rub that leads to abscesses and they scarred. It looks different than the inner thighs you see in magazines or porn.
but its mine and honestly even if I did still care, I don’t even know how to change them. Its a part of life!! The only people who really see it are my doctors and my lovers and they’re both really okay with my situation :)
I think the thing to remember is that if it happened to you, you better fucking believe its happening to someone else. You’re not alone, you’re not a freak and you definitely deserve love and respect from others but especially from yourself.
I’ll keep on this little project <3 xoxoxo