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I had to delete the other Tumblr to separate it so please re-follow and submit!
get with it
I had to delete the other Tumblr to separate it so please re-follow and submit!
get with it
If you’re interested in creating fat/body positive community in your area, contact my #1 Jewess Amazing Babe For Life Always, Jessica Glickman at jessicaglickman@gmail.com or click her name for her tumblr <3
She’ll prove to be a light in your life they way she’s been in mine without a doubt, so run don’t walk you know?
LOVE YOU
I want to create political movements where we can be gentle with one another so that we can learn, grow and move together in new ways. Most of the time, we cling really hard to our identities, our politics, and our ways of understanding the world which prevents new connections from happening. On tumblr our defenses are high and when someone speaks out about our identities, behavior, politics, or the problems that they create, we immediately stage a search and destroy mission aimed to take them down and make ourselves seem cool and smart. This usually consists of a group of people getting angry and saying hurtful things about a certain person or issue leaving no room for growth or understanding, only divisiveness and alienation. We need to stop taking each other out and look at the bigger picture.
To me, there is a difference between anger and rage. Rage can be productive, it can fuel us to destroy and rethink our ways of understanding ourselves and the world. It can mobilize us to connect in new ways and look at how we are hurting others and ourselves. Anger strikes me as something very different than rage. Anger often emerges from a place of fear and can be used as a way to exercise power over other bodies and people. Generally the way we talk to each other about our differences on tumblr comes from a place of anger. I don’t think that anger isn’t valid or necessary sometimes, it is. More often than not though, people use angry or aggressive words as a way to prop themselves up as unimpeachable beacons of knowledge, or authority figures and are actually just perpetuating the same counter-norms and exercising power in the same ways as the systems we all claim we want to destroy.
We need to start thinking of power, and oppression in new ways. Probably one of the most important things anyone ever taught me, was that dominance functions by remaining invisible. I think that is really accurate and accessible way to get people thinking about how power functions in the world in more complicated ways. It’s not just about certain people having power over others, or government having power over the people - power is everywhere. Power is all around us and constantly multiplying all of the time. If we aren’t cultivating an awareness of the ways in which we are personally reproducing and perpetuating power in our interactions with others we are just going to continue to recreate the same fucked up dynamics over and over in our social movements.
Our political identities: fat, woman, queer etc. have been created for us by the systems of power that are fucking us over (and denying us rights) in the first place. Our identities are important in many ways but we need to realize they are seriously limiting and getting caught up in the intricacies of them may only serve to dig us in deeper. Until we find new ways that we can start to connect, I think the most important thing we can do is take care of each other so we can be dangerous together. Instead of coming at each other from a place of anger and fear, or an unexamined desire for power — perhaps we can come to one another from a place of love, gentleness, maybe even compassion? This will manifest differently for all of us, but lets take this into consideration and start talking about what this looks like.
RE-THINK EVERYTHING, INTERROGATE YOURSELF, KNOW YOUR ENEMY
- Erin Majestic Legay
1. Myth: There are no intentional communities anymore; they died out in the `60s &`70s. Fact: Not so. Many of those communities survived and thrived, and many new ones have formed since then. A significant new wave of interest in intentional communities has grown over the last several years. We listed 540 intentional communities in North America in the 1995 edition of our Communities Directory—up from 300 in our 1990/91 edition. Several hundred more communities (who declined to be listed) are in our database. We estimate there are several thousand altogether. 2. Myth: Intentional communities are all alike. Fact: There is enormous diversity among intentional communities. Most communities share land or housing, but more importantly, their members share a common vision and work actively to carry out their common purpose. However, their purposes vary widely. For example, communities have been formed to share resources, to create great family neighborhoods, to live ecologically sustainable lifestyles, or to live with others who hold similar values. Some communities are wholly secular; others are committed to a common spiritual practice; many are spiritually eclectic. Some are focused on egalitarian values and voluntary simplicity, or mutual interpersonal growth work, or rural homesteading and self-reliance. Some communities provide services, for example helping war refugees, the urban homeless, or developmentally disabled children or adults. Some communities operate rural conference and retreat centers, health and healing centers, or sustainable-living education centers. 3. Myth: Intentional communities are “communes.” Fact: Many people use these terms interchangeably, however, it is probably more useful to use the term “commune” to describe a particular kind of intentional community whose members live “communally” in an economic sense—operating with a common treasury and sharing ownership of their property. Most intentional communities are notcommunes, though some of the communities most active in the communities movement are. 4. Myth: Most community members are young—in their twenties. Fact: Most communities are multi-generational. In the hundreds of North American communities we know about, most members range in age from 30 to 60, with some in their 20s, some 60 and older, and many children. 5. Myth: Most communitarians are hippies. Fact: While some of today’s communities can trace their roots back to the counterculture of the `60s and `70s, few today identify with the hippie stereotype. (Moreover, many of the characteristics that identified “hippies” 25 years ago—long hair, bright clothes, ecological awareness—have become integrated into mainstream lifestyles.) On the political spectrum, communitarians tend to be left of center. In terms of lifestyle choices, they tend to be hard working, peace loving, health conscious, environmentally concerned, and family oriented. Philosophically they tend toward a way of life which increases the options for their own members without limiting the choices of others. 6. Myth: All intentional communities are out in the boondocks. Fact: While 54% of the communities listed in the 1995 Communities Directory are rural, 28% are urban, 10% have both rural and urban sites, and 8% don’t specify. 7. Myth: Most intentional communities are organized around a particular religion or common spiritual practice. Fact: While it’s true that many groups have a spiritual focus—and most of the better-known historical communities did, such as Amana and Oneida—of the 540 North American communities listed in the Communities Directory, 65% are secular or don’t specify, while only 35% are explicitly spiritual or religious. 8. Myth: Most intentional communities have an authoritarian form of governance; they follow a charismatic leader. Fact: The reverse is true; the most common form of governance is democratic, with decisions made by some form of consensus or voting. Of the hundreds of communities we have information about, 64% are democratic, 9% have a hierarchical or authoritarian structure, 11% are a combination of democratic and hierarchical, and 16% don’t specify. Many communities which formerly followed one leader or a small group of leaders have changed in recent years to a more democratic form of governance. 9. Myth: Community members all think alike. Fact: Because communities are by definition organized around a common vision or purpose, their members tend to hold a lot of values and beliefs in common—many more than shared among a typical group of neighbors. Still, disagreements are a common occurrence in most communities, just as in the wider society. The object of community is not so much to eliminate conflict as to learn to work with it constructively. 10. Myth: Most communities are “cults.” Fact: Many sociologists and psychologists know that the popular image of “cults” and “mind control” is distorted. Both the American Psychological Association and the Society for the Scientific Study of Religion have done research that refutes the idea that religious or other groups are systematically brainwashing their members or interfering with their ability to think critically. Although the term “cult” is usually intended to identify a group in which abuse occurs, its use frequently says more about the observer than the observed. It would generally be more accurate if the observer said “a group with values and customs different from mine; a group that makes me feel uncomfortable or afraid.” Most communities are not abusive toward members. The ones which are, especially those prone to violence, can attract media attention which falsely implies that intentional communities are abusive in general. It’s our experience that the overwhelming majority of communities go quietly about their business, and are considered good places to live by their members—and good neighbors by people who live around them. 11. Myth: Community members have little privacy or autonomy. Fact: The degree of privacy and autonomy in communities varies as widely as the kinds of communities themselves. In some communities individual households own their own land and house, and have their own independent economy (perhaps with shared facilities, as in many land co-ops); their degree of privacy and autonomy is nearly identical to that of mainstream society. However, in communities with specific religious or spiritual lifestyles (such as monasteries or some meditation retreats), privacy and autonomy are typically more limited, as part of the purpose for which the community was organized. Most communities fall between these two points on the privacy/held-in-common spectrum. The trend among intentional communities forming now is toward more individual control than was common among those which formed in the `60s and `70s. For example, one of the fastest growing segments of the communities movement today is cohousing, where residents enjoy autonomy similar to that of any planned housing development. Finding a healthy balance between individual needs and those of the community is a key issue for the `90s—in both intentional communities and the larger society in general. 12. Myth: Most members of intentional communities live impoverished lifestyles with limited resources. Fact: Communities make a wide variety of choices regarding standard of living—some embrace voluntary simplicity, while others emphasize full access to the products and services of today’s society. Communities tend to make careful choices about the accumulation and use of resources, deciding what best fits with their core values. Regardless of the choices made, nearly all communities take advantage of sharing and the opportunities of common ownership to allow individuals access to facilities and equipment they don’t need to own privately (for example power tools, washing machines, pickup trucks, and in some cases, even swimming pools). In terms of material wealth, communities evolve like families: starting off with limited resources, new communities tend to live simply. As they mature, they tend to create a stable economic base and enjoy a more comfortable life—according to their own standards. Many established communities (20 years and older) have built impressive facilities, some of which are quite innovative in design and materials. The dollars to finance these improvements have come from successful community businesses, ranging from light manufacturing to food products, from computer services to conference centers. 13. Myth: Most people who live in communities are running away from responsibilities. Fact: Many people choose to live in community because it offers a way of life which is different, in various ways, from that of the wider society. Since living in community does not eliminate everyday responsibilities, most community members raise families, maintain and repair their land and buildings, work for a living, pay taxes, etc. At the same time, communitarians usually perceive their lifestyle as more caring and satisfying than that of mainstream culture, and because of this—and the increased free time which results from pooling resources and specialized skills—many community members feel they can engage more effectively with the wider society. In fact, many communitarians are deeply involved in their wider community of neighbors, and often provide staffing or even leadership for various local civic and social change organizations. For more information, please contact the Fellowship for Intentional Community
Babies I really need you. Well Adrien needs you but it would mean so much to me if ya’ll could help him out in his time of need.
Do you live in the Northern Wisconsin area? Twin Cities? Are you trans* looking for community and support? Can you be support to someone who is trans* and lacks familial support? Maybe you’re looking for a roommate or you need to get out of your living situation as well? Maybe you just want to send my baby a message of support and love and solidarity because we all know what its like to be scared and isolated and in need of love and community <3
Maybe Adrien can elaborate on this or clarify, but a signal boost from you all would really really be helpful :)
I have a lot of followers so I hope ya’ll can reblog this at the very least please!!
None of you are alone and I love you very much <3 <3 xoxoxo
Any local fats not already invited or have seen this,
Info here: https://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=group_114494441944425&ap=1Meet up is at 2 pm at my cafe in San Bruno, CA (Near SFO)
signal boost!!
ATTN SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA FOLKS OF ALL BODY TYPES, GENDER, HAIRSTYLE, RACE, BLOOD TYPE AND OTHERWISE DISTINCTIVE CHARACTERISTICS
WE’RE HAVING A BEACH DAY MOTHERTRUCKERS!!!
OKAY SO I was going to make a really ~*KEWL*~ flyer but I changed my mind!!!!
Here are the deets:
WHEN: May 21st @ whenever you want o’clock. Margitte and I will get there early to get a spot
WHERE: Ocean Beach in San Diego. Near dog park (so bring your pups!) and the grills (so we can make snacks)
WHY: Because seeing Tumblr babes in the flesh in their bathing suits being happy is basically my DREAM
WHAT (to bring): YOURSELF, your friends, your family, basically anyone with a good attitude. Also bring stuff you’ll need or want to have at the beach duh. We’re not providing snacks for everyone but I’m hoping this will be like a potluck deal and there will be a grill so like, prepare for that
WHO (to contact): Myself (tangledupinlace@gmail.com or my ASS box) or Margitte (margitteleah@gmail.com or her ASS BOX )
please reblog and spread the good word!!! xoxox
What sounds more feasible for So Cal babes to attend a beach day in San Diego: May 14th-15th or 21-22nd?
Does anyone thinking of coming have a little bbq or grill they could bring?
I’ve been talking about organizing a plus size clothing swap party for the past couple of months, and I am determined to make it happen (with the help from my lovely friend, Natalie).
If you’re interested PLEASE join our DFW/Denton Fatshionistas Facebook group. You may have to be logged into Facebook to access this link. If it’s still not working, search “DFW/Denton Fatshionistas” Feel free to send me a message here on tumblr with any questions.
Join fellow fats, spread the word, reblog!
(Sizes 12 and up only, please)It’s a Closed group, by the way.
SIGNAL BOOSTING!!! YAY COMMUNITY BUILDING!!!