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Dove hired a forensic artist to draw how women see themselves versus how others see them - the results are moving.

EEEEW I HATE THIS AND HATE DOVE REAL BEAUTY CAMPAIGNS! 

First, I do see the ~benefits of this campaign. Women do have really fucked up skewed images of themselves and we are forever being told what our good features are and what we should be really ashamed of and disgusted by….like that protruding chin you ugly beast!! And freckles? Thanks Patriarchy and White Eurocentric beauty standards!!  It’s wicked that these women were able to see these two images and hopefully they’re able to start a journey of self love from it. Cool you’re not as fat and frizzy as you thought?

but, like….really?

Fuck beauty being where our worth and happiness lies, fuck the idea that we can ~*forgive*~ ourselves for our flaws and that this real beauty campaign advocates for a heirarchy of facial features?? no your chin doesn’t protrude, that’d be gross…it’s thin and CUTE! Sadder and fatter?? BARF ALL OVER. Also wicked use of men in this campaign…uhhhhhh. Beauty is NOT critical to your happiness, respect and body autonomy and full destruction of the patriarchy might be though

I wouldn’t hate that Dove thinks they can capitalize on body acceptance to peddle their fucking bodywash if they weren’t constantly doing it so wrong 

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this burn i have on my tit is, in relation to my areola,the salad plate to my dinner plates

My Bubbe used to say that until the bears had their own historians, the tales of the hunt  would always glorify the hunter. 

As a fat storyteller, I seek to glorify the hunt on the bear’s terms.   All my life my fat body has caused people to speak for me, about me and against me.  Telling my stories and reading the stories of other fat folks has shown me the transformational and healing power of flipping the script.

Who can hold you through your pain, your laughter, your confusion and your celebrations like those who experience similar embodiments?

 Hot & Heavy: Fat Fierce Girls on Life, Love and Fashion is an anthology edited by a fat superhero named Virgie Tovar. A woman who sparkles, loves and fights for fatties with every fiber of her being. She’s phenomenal, not of this world and doing such amazing work. 

Hot & Heavy is the warmth of a hug, the salt of tears and the strength of a swift kick in 5inch heels and most importantly, that reminder that fat means never having to say you’re sorry.

Our power comes from our tales of pain from the too tight jeans, the day we finally found a lover who traced the iridescent sparkle of our stretch marks in worship, the taste of our first guilt free bite of cheesecake or what it felt like to fight back at the words of hate constantly spewed at our big bodies.

Our power as fat bodies will come from us remembering our humanity, our community and our ability to survive. It will come from sharing our stories.

I will say this anthology focuses on fat cis folks who identify as women. For my loved ones and readers who do not find themselves in these stories, I highly encourage you to write and share so that you may give strength to others and honour your struggles and growth. My hope is that we’re working towards a future where a mutiplicity of stories and embodiments and experiences can be shared and celebrated.

Go buy this book and share with the fat loved ones in your life the power of seeing your story in another <3 (click the picture to take you to the Amazon page! it’s only $10 too!)

*photo of me by Fleetwood Legay

unapologeticfatty:

Jessica is my fatspiration. 

I wore this bikini to the lake today.

Majestic has been working and going to school full time so we don’t get as much QT as we used to and when we’re spread thin (ha), we regenerate in nature.

The thing is, Mercury’s in Retrograde, I’m shedding my uterine lining and my idea of “going into nature” doesn’t ever involve (or rather, I’d prefer if it didn’t) thin white insecure teenaged girls. 

But today it did. 

Normally, I’d do what I do best. Sitting in unflattering positions, eating passionately and aggressively and deflecting everyone’s poor self image are my strong suits.(right next to fucking, tying a pretty bow and swearing) I like to incite and I love to be seen in my fat bawdy. It reminds me I’m alive….surviving and thriving.

but like I said before, Mercury’s in Retrograde, I haven’t gotten intentional time with my Lover and I’m on my motherfucking period.

Today was not the goddamn day. 

Watching a couple different flocks of thin teenage girls whisper to each other and then stare at two magical creatures such as myself and my beautiful wife with a look like they’d smelled a ripe fart filled me with a fiery rage.

Fat people can’t just fucking go to the lake and move their bodies in public without repercussions. The majority of thin people CAN. 

Now, because this is not my first rodeo and I do not want anyone to get it twisted, I want everyone to read my words carefully and I really want thin folks to GET REAL with themselves right now.

I know the thin folks who read my blog make some serious attempts at becoming more body positive and I know you all try to think more critically about the ways in which you participate in a culture that is out to kill me. I know a lot of thin folks in my real life care about me, love me and even find my devilishly good looks to be quite captivating.

So when I talk about my feelings and real experiences, I do not want to hear about how you’re not the bad guy and how you don’t appreciate my anger. I don’t care


Today I took the countless stares, whispers and upset faces personally. Instead of challenging them, I started to shake with unadulterated rage and huffed off. I moved our blanket and snacks to a secluded inlet of the lake and sulked. 

When Majestic and I started to process my feelings, I told them the reason I feel unsafe around thin folks at the beach was about me 1. seeing their fucking faces when they look at me and 2. remembering what it was like to hate my body and the gross awful things I thought about people then. Worse, the things I was encouraged by my peers to say and think about people and the way we bonded over mean and hurtful feelings like it would keep us satisfied until we allowed ourselves a small portioned diet meal.

I told Majestic that thin people are thinking a few different things about my body and I don’t like any of them. Are they disgusted beyond belief? Are they sad for me and my pitiful fat existence? Are they just staring because my body has become so abject and such a spectacle that they’re just interested in knowing what it looks like that unclothed? Are they scared about what my body makes them think about their bodies? 


Majestic said, “They’re uncomfortable. They want you to be invisible, but you refuse. It would be easier for them if you hid, but you won’t and that’s upsetting.”

So maybe some of them are thinking about how ~*brave*~ I must be and that’s supposed to quell my upset over all the other thoughts they could be thinking. 

As if them thinking its brave to have such a revolting body and still put on bathing suit and enjoy a swim just like them is a comforting thought.

But it is brave to know your body is scary and that people want to destroy it, but that it’s yours and you love it and you made the radical decision not to deny yourself a dip in a lake on a hot day or an ice cream cone or a lover who respects you. 

Because I know it’s hard to be a teenage girl and if I thought they’d listen, I’d sit down with every last one of them and tell them I remember what it was like to be them and that I know what it’s like to carry that venom inside you. 

Because as much as I want to tell the world how they hurt themselves by hating me, I really just want to fucking float around in the cool water like everyone else but you don’t want that for me

And tomorrow’s just another day for me to be fat in your face and if that’s hard for you, TOO FUCKING BAD

(Source: tangledupinlace)

(Photo reblogged from unapologeticfatty)

embodying my obese lifestyle

chubadubdub:

mmmajestic:

i just went to a new swimming hole for some good old fashioned night swimming and it was so delightful and exactly what my mer-slut heart needed. when we got there we walked out to the end of the dock, promptly took off all of our clothes in front of the other swimmers and jumped in. j-lux and i held hands and i yelled ‘CANNONBALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL’ as we jumped in together, it was like, SO obese lifestyle (seriously though jlux is the queen of cannonballz). we splashed around and laughed while the sun sunk into a beautiful pink and i watched gratefully as the stars began to twinkle above our heads. there were swallows and bats and booty and babes and no body shaming, just joy and support and love. i really needed that today because as much as i wish my life was all whimsy and crop tops, it also involves a lot of hard fucking work and sometimes a fat bitch just needs to let loose, you know? 

i’ve been thinking a lot about how like, it’s really important to talk about bodies and fatness and stuff online but it is also really important to embody the things that i am putting out there. i am doing a lot of that work these days. i would have never gotten naked in front of people like that even two summers ago, and it feels really good to be wearing weather appropriate attire (aka no more long sleeves during heat waves) and honouring and trusting my body and the places it can take me. 

majestic: prince(ss) of whales

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sometimes you’re waddling from the water to your towel, watching the way the water drips down your rolls and all of a sudden you’re like, “oh yeah, hating my body was fucking POINTLESS

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(Post reblogged from chubadubdub)

riotsnotdiets:

riotsnotdiets:

THE WEBSITE IS UP! Please visit fatbodyinvisible.com for information about the documentary and how to purchase it. 

I am so completely thrilled to finally have this baby off the ground. I think the site is gorgeous and I am so excited for the future of my little film.

Thank you to everyone who has been involved thus far: my subjects Jessica and Keena, my co-editors Hannah and Ivana, the amazing women at Women Make Movies, Chris for his mad computer skills, Kyla for her equally awesome photography, and Alana for the best damn web design ever.

2012 is starting off with a bang, and I couldn’t be happier.

FANTASTIC NEWS!

The documentary is now available for individual purchase! Only $24.95! Click here for details.

And please please signal boost! <3

You can have me for individual home use!

(Photo reblogged from riotsnotdiets)
mmmajestic:

I SEE YOU BIG BOY
my journey of self love led me to this fatkini début earlier this year. i didn’t have a fatkini to wear (i`m not really sure that i’m a fatkini kind of gay, glitter short shorts and titz out is more my speed) but i worked with what i had (as per) and i looked damn fine. this was the day i finally gave the public world the pleasure of gazing upon my hot juicy beach bod and i felt really scared while i was doing it. since then i’ve been getting more comfortable with it and now i’d pretty much walk around naked if i could because i’m fucking over hiding my body to make other people comfortable. for my entire life, i’ve felt so much pressure from the world around me to conceal and hide my body and i internalized it in really weird and fucked up ways, it feels really powerful and healing to just do my thing now. i hope if you want to do this too, you try it out! i used to wear hoodies all summer and now i’m all thunder thighs and double chins and loving ever minute of it.
i just try to remember this about the haters: they are just sad. their words and responses are products of a body shaming culture that is racist, classist, ableist and deeply misogynist (and cissexist, duh). this is the culture that prevails when i continue to feel ashamed and cover my body, this is the culture that prevails when i am invisible. but most of all, sad, body shaming haters are totally fucking irrelevant to my fabulous obese lifestyle. 

The body of a god, the tongue of a champion, a fierce &amp; beautiful tenderheart and my very best friend &lt;3 &lt;3

mmmajestic:

I SEE YOU BIG BOY

my journey of self love led me to this fatkini début earlier this year. i didn’t have a fatkini to wear (i`m not really sure that i’m a fatkini kind of gay, glitter short shorts and titz out is more my speed) but i worked with what i had (as per) and i looked damn fine. this was the day i finally gave the public world the pleasure of gazing upon my hot juicy beach bod and i felt really scared while i was doing it. since then i’ve been getting more comfortable with it and now i’d pretty much walk around naked if i could because i’m fucking over hiding my body to make other people comfortable. for my entire life, i’ve felt so much pressure from the world around me to conceal and hide my body and i internalized it in really weird and fucked up ways, it feels really powerful and healing to just do my thing now. i hope if you want to do this too, you try it out! i used to wear hoodies all summer and now i’m all thunder thighs and double chins and loving ever minute of it.

i just try to remember this about the haters: they are just sad. their words and responses are products of a body shaming culture that is racist, classist, ableist and deeply misogynist (and cissexist, duh). this is the culture that prevails when i continue to feel ashamed and cover my body, this is the culture that prevails when i am invisible. but most of all, sad, body shaming haters are totally fucking irrelevant to my fabulous obese lifestyle. 

The body of a god, the tongue of a champion, a fierce & beautiful tenderheart and my very best friend <3 <3

(Photo reblogged from heavymuffintop)

heavypettingtalktv:

HEAVY PETTING: Episode 2

subtitled version here

This week we’re talking about Self Love! Its an important tool for life and a vital building block for the topics we’ll be talking about here on out on Heavy Petting. Self love enriches your relationships with others, but most importantly yourself.

Remember to be compassionate and patient with yourselves Heavy Petters!

Here’s the link to our video on Intuitive Eating that we talk about in the video 

(Video reblogged from heavypettingtalktv)

DAT ASS

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