Tangled Up In Lace

Anonymous asked: Just putting in my opinion here -
As a fat person who also has psoriasis, I have to say it is almost impossible to deal with both at the same time.
When I look to photos of "fatspiration" and fabulous fat women, they are ALWAYS clear-skinned. Even if they have stretch marks or acne, the skin is smooth. Nobody is red and flaky and unpleasant like me.
When even the national psoriasis foundation posts pictures of people with psoriasis as inspiration for content living, they are always thin.
It's not always as easy as lotion and cold showers - my skin, which has a rather severe relative of eczema, requires a 80$-a-dose medication in order to get rid of the flakes, and I'm suffering from mass outbreaks of skin infections as a side effect.
I'm not trying to make myself seem like a victim, but I understand where that anon is coming from. I can accept fat, if I just had clear skin. And I could accept the psoriasis or infections, if I were just thin. But the combination of both is terrible, even for the hardiest of personalities.
However, I do have to mention that one of the reasons that anon is having such a hard time is because people with nonclear skin AREN'T represented in FA. I remember reading a post by definatalie about how as someone with acne scars, she felt the need to hide them and felt embarrassed. Acne scars can be covered with makeup, but open sores can't. I wish it wasn't like this, and that people with nonclear skin could feel represented in FA art and photography.

Opinions when respectful are always welcome and appreciated :)

I’ve sort of addressed the clear skin thing and definitely the smooth skin thing before because yeah, you’re not seeing a bunch of diversity in model pictures.  There is DEFINITELY varied skin types in pictures of fat bodies on Tumblr, like that’s a fact.  Maybe they’re not bleeding but like, in my pictures the camera just doesn’t pick up some of my differently colored parts or bumps, etc.  I just don’t have that nice of a camera. I DEFINITELY don’t have that smooth of skin as my pictures convey…like I seriously, hand to god, do not edit my photos and still, I look like I’m fucking carved from butter!!  But I’ve seen posts and reblog posts where folks have skin that’s real and it shows.  Its out there.  

I mean are you posting pictures of your skin?  I don’t say that as an attack, I just mean like if people aren’t doing it, you’re not going to see it.

I also acknowledge the severity of your conditions.  I know its hard to deal with and I know its not always as easy as lotion and showers and I’m genuinely sorry for that.  I don’t know what to say about that exactly except that I AM sorry and that I wish it were different.

All I can say is that I’m here for support and I hope it gets easier. I do think if you want to see more diverse skin situations, we have to be willing to do it ourselves.  Thats exactly why I post pictures of my body and my outfits because I wasn’t seeing bodies like mine.

I hope you don’t feel like I was being dismissive or condescending in my last answer, that was never my intention

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  1. fancybidet said: anon should cop an eyeful of my tumblr. ACNED FAT BITCH FOR LIFEEEE!
  2. tangledupinlace posted this