eclecticyouthh asked: Hi Jessica! Firstly, you're totally amaze, thank you for teaching me a kind of self love I didn't know was possible! I have a questions though.How do I find a balance between trying not to give voice to my negative body thoughts and allowing myself to be comforted and supported by those around me? thanks! :) xxox
Thank you!!!
This is a great question and an issue that I still sort of have to be conscious of myself.
For me it helps to, as soon as you become aware of those negative thoughts about yourself, to first try and deal with it within yourself. Counteract that negativity with positive truths about yourself, do some deep breathing, an activity that puts you back in your body (dancing, etc) or maybe listen to your favorite song, etc.
Then, if its still an issue, I sometimes voice out loud, “Hey, I’m feeling sort of bad about myself right now. Do you have the space/time to cheer me up?” or sometimes I just go up to Majestic and say “I need affirmation!”
Its best practice for me to not put the exact thought out into the world, but rather bring it up generally. That way I don’t really rope others into my body shaming but I can still be honest about where I’m at and what I need.
so, first talk to yourself about what’s going on and then if that doesn’t work, reach out!
Be gentle with yourself!! xoxo