youwantmuchmore asked: With out any malice intent, I'm curious to know what you think of Beth Ditto as a public figure and notoriously fabulous larger woman.

I think she’s outstanding!! I met her a few years back and her speaking voice is just the sweetest thing and she was so warm and welcoming and I think, really stoked to see fatties at her show (which was in a really weird San Diego hotel for rich snobs and Brenda and I were the only fatties there)

I think she works really hard to be true to herself in a machine set out to destroy her and her look is super exciting to me

I also think that it’s probably a lot of fucking pressure to be seen as one of the ~only fatties making it for themselves (which is not true and that bums me out that the others aren’t as visible as Beth)

Beth being queer and femme was and still is really heartwarming and a source of strength for me

But, really…..please World, stop telling every single fat feminine person that they look like Beth or Adele. We’re begging you

m-o-ckup asked: hey, have you ever felt really disconnected from your heart? l feel like i used to have this deep sense of connection and understanding with my heart, and my "soul" (for lack of a better word) and it would guide me...help navigate me in the world in a meaningful way, but the last several months i feel more and more lost, and unsure of everything. i really value and respect your words, if you have any advice for this, will you please share it with me.

I have a really wonderful and beautiful friend named Ursula who, when we were discussing someone “losing themselves”, said something along the lines of this:

When we connect with folks we really connect with (chosen family, friends, blood family, etc), we give them little pieces of ourselves. They hold those pieces in memories of shared laughter, heart connections and their desires for our happiness and contentment. 

If you ever want to find yourself again, go to the places you left your heart. Share food with the ones you love, spend time in a nature spot that fills you up, cry to music that moves you, journal journal journal

I’d also just like to throw it out there that this last moon cycle was really tough for so many so there’s also a really good chance that some of it is beyond you and in the hands of the stars and the moon. and even if that’s not totally true, putting myself in the universe’s embrace and telling myself that it will hold me and carry me out is really fucking powerful and healing <3

Also sometimes I write myself a letter! Since I come from a broken family, I’m the only one in charge of keeping all my memories. I can’t go to a blood family elder and ask about who I was before, so I write myself a letter and even just the process of giving into my stream of consciousness is so cathartic.

I’m sending you love and strength and the confidence to know that you can always find your way back to yourself

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