hnnnnnng. I have these friends. BEST Friends. Gay friendly, a little.. closed minded when it comes to sex inclusivity (ICAN'TSPELL) and transpositivity. But.. But tonight they just. We were talking about elections and suddenly, it was all "FUCK WOMEN WHO WANT ABORTIONS FUCK PEOPLE WHO CAN'T GET JOBS FUCK THIS FUCK THAT." And I felt so claustrophobic and overwhelmed and I don't know what to do. It was so sudden. These are people I love spending time with and they just turned into monsters.
UGH this is the WORST. I hate finding out people who are seemingly pretty fun are ignorant and rude. But like, not everyone can be perfect like you and me :)
If they’re really important to you, talk to them and try to get them to think critically about the shit that comes out of their mouths and hearts. You could send them a Facebook message if you don’t want to do it face to face, or you could just mention it the next time you’re together. Make sure to let them know who’s being hurt by their words and attitudes and what it means to you. Speak from your heart and try to understand that for a variety of reasons, not all of us understand social justice the same way so give them the tenderness to understand what you’re saying.
That being said, fun people can be huge fuckwads sometimes! So like, if you go through all that and they respond in a way that doesn’t make you feel good, take out the trash. You can totally find fun with people who don’t use oppressive language.
Best of luck and I’m sending you lots of love and support xoxoxox