Tangled Up In Lace

I’m adding your P.S.:

9.5 maybe a 10 :) Depends on the shoe if I’m a wide or not :)

Well I never want you to leave so there’s that. Also I don’t really know!

I mean I’ll be there the whole time and there will be plenty of socializing and wine…and I’m guessing new clothes will come in as the night goes along.

Also we’re having a meet and greet on Saturday night and then an afterparty Sunday night so you could just get your fill of me by then ;)

Oh I don’t know, I REALLY love presents!!! EEEEEEEEEE I’M SO EXCITED!!!!

Go check out this Tumblr: The Gold and The Beautiful <3 

Even if you’re not trading clothes, its going to be a great event to meet body positive people in your area and that’s so important!! xoxox

<3 <3 <3

Okay let’s get the bad news out of the way first :) It will be SO COLD in Chicago. But I know you know how to layer girl and you won’t be there forever so do like me and just freeze your tits off for a few days ;) I’m just planning on wearing tights over tights over tights and hella scarves and shit.  Whatever, we’ll make it work because we’re resourceful braniacs <3

I’m going to be hella busy when I’m there but I’ll have my cell phone (I’m going to message you the number) so you can always call and there’s a few events over the weekend you are more than welcome to go to with me! I’ll be at Robyn on Friday night (tickets are sold out but I bought one at Stubhub…though it was like $80). On Saturday I’ll be at Sans~Culotte to see gorgeous pictures of my sweet Rachel taken by Lucy Hewitt. And well Sunday I’ll be at the event! Monday and Tuesday are fairly open!!  You won’t be alone and it will be a big adventure :)

ALSO if need be take a cab!! It may cost a little more cash but its safe and direct <3 <3

I really hope you come because I’d just love to see you and squeeze you a bunch <3 <3 xoxoxoxo

I feel weird saying fish are sexy because I’m pretty sure that’s beastiality??

I love you too Anon (I’m imagining you’re a mermaid)

somewhere floating around is something brilliant I once said about my confidence and my anger dealing with fat.

I’m over feeling bad about my body. Completely. I no longer have days where I think about losing weight or looking differently in regards to my body. There are days were I wish my hair was bigger (every day practically) or I had different clothes…but they don’t affect the way I feel about myself.  I’m over the physical insecurities.

I have bad days just like anyone else but they’re about like me not feeling smart enough or funny enough and they’re most likely due to my famous mood swings. I question my personality on bad days, not my body.

I think that might be because I’m ALWAYS working towards positive thoughts about my body.  I mean, when you think about all the time I spend on Tumblr and what I’m doing when I’m on there…it makes sense.  I surround myself with people who have positive don’t give a fuckness just oozing from their pores :)

If you’re a whiner or a non charming negative brat (because some bitching and moaning can be incredibly charming to me), I unfollow your ass and say a litle nondenomenational prayer to Saint Cher and Her Holy Highness Diana Ross for your spirits, but I wash my hands of you.

Do you to the fullest, ALWAYS

TRIGGER WARNING!!!!!!

Obviously Eating Disorders are horribly sad…but I think all too often people forget its an ILLNESS.  Its not necessarily a choice and too many people who claim to be body positive or size acceptance advocates seem to really vilanize those suffering from ED.  They are not the villians.  We can’t keep engaging weird internet fights with people who run thinspo blogs or reblog our photos with body hate comments…its a waste of energy and time to me.

I don’t ever engage those suffering unless they engage me first looking for HELP.  I get quite a few messages from people looking to insult me or fight and its just not worth my time or energy to respond.  In order to preserve my mental health and the mental health of those following me, I just delete them or respond in the other person’s ask box. 

as far as “Its you body, your coice” to an extent, yeah because of that, I don’t really take action.  I don’t think they make those choices of their own volition always but I can’t do much about that really. 

All I can do is lead by example :)  I can prove that loving your body to the fullest at any weight is possible and fufilling.  I can prove that I am not defined by the breadth of my thighs or the stretch marks on my tummy. I’m also not going to sit here and forcefully try and pull people into my lifestyle though…its just not worth the heartache to me.

From my personal experience of having people suffering from ED in my life, the only person who convince them to heal themselves is themselves.

I just lead by example and I don’t participate in body hate or weight loss talk with them.

I hope that was sort of clear and helped at all :) xoxoxo